I just chatted with a friend of mine and one of the things we’ve discussed is looking good. Literally looking good. All of us have our own insecurities when it comes to our looks, but it seems that society has always placed a heavier burden on women on having to look “pretty” or “sexy” or “hot” while men can look, and I’m using the term loosely, “rugged” without any regard for their looks and can totally get away with it.
So we were talking about his going to the gym and his insecurities about “that little fat” on his tummy when he said one of the sweetest things I’ve heard:
“Zoe has her hormones and therapy thing going and I work on my body, it’s just fair.”
Ok, it wasn’t really sweet but he does make a very good point. He also said many things like:
“What kind of guy wouldn’t want to look good for their girl?”
“If I just wanted to become single, I don’t care about it (looks). But if I’m looking for a girl, I want to offer her something.”
“Those American guys are just fastfood victims. You try and look pretty for them but they just stay fat and munch on their burgers.”
“I want to be able to carry my wife after the wedding and I certainly can’t do that if I’m like one of those fat American guys.” (Ok, I think this is a valid sweet line)
I’m not into racial stereotyping but I was just quoting what he said and well… Anyway, the whole point of it is, why do men think they can get away looking the way they look without even exerting any effort in looking any better? Is it from their assumption that they already look good? Really?
Hideo's Brazilian-Japanese so he doesn't really count. My point is, have you seen many guys like him (50%!?) walking the streets of Manila? Huh? Huh!?
Sadly, that may just be the case. According to this survey, “48 percent of Filipino males felt they were sexually attractive, coming a close second to Americans, 53 percent of whom felt the same about themselves.” 48 percent. That’s almost 50% or 1 in 2. I’m not trying to degrade the looks of the Filipino male but of the many guys I see when I do go out, I’m most definitely sure I don’t find 50% of them attractive. Heck, the moment I see that many guys I’m attracted to in just one day, I might as well just die and go to heaven (or wherever if you don’t believe in that).
Women go to all these lengths, even more, just to look good: shaving, waxing, makeup, facial creams, lotions, diamond peels, etc. Men on the other hand can just get out of bed, shower for 5 minutes, then be all “good” and decent to everyone’s eyes (or at least that’s what they think). If a woman doesn’t wax “down there”, it’s gross; for a guy, it’s totally normal. If a woman doesn’t have makeup on and she has this tired look on her face, she looks old; for a guy, he looks “respectable.” If a woman has even the slightest of hair growth on her face, it’s weird; for a guy, even if there’s a forest of hair growing on his chin, he just looks “rugged.” Think about it. Is it really fair?